Cuz, Oh Well, Women Just Don’t Matter

You know the moment when you’re so furious you feel yourself tremble, trying to contain the blood boil? Yeah, that’s me at this moment. Having a boring day at work, and I decided to flip through news headlines on my phone, and I don’t know if I regret going through it, or am glad I actually did so I learn. So I am going to go ahead and aplogize in advance for all typos if they do happen.

I know I am a feminist, but for a quite simple reason. I am not going to sit back and accept whatever violence towards or ridiculous assumptions about women are taking place. First, I read about the second Pakistani girl, an education rights advocate, and 17 at that, who is receiving death threats. The teacher who was shot down for supporting these girls. And of course, the hospitalized 14 year old.

I don’t even know where to begin and where to end about it. Who really needs education in Pakistan and Afghanistan are the men who kill these women in the name of Islam, in the name of honour killing. And, they need to be educated about their own religion to begin with. For one, Islam does not recognize honour killing. Second, Islam has ordered all men and ALL WOMEN to seek all the education they are capable of. And to travel to the other side of the world if need be for the sole purpose of education. I mean, how big of a roadblock do they have installed in their brains to get this simple message across?

Then, I read about the pay gaps that are still very consisently existing in today’s society and that enraged me even more. I mean, I know. I am living it. I can see what I am making for the degree I have, and the job I am working too. And by the looks of it, it isn’t going to get any better. I observe the ratio of praised men and praised women. And, they still think it is funny.

Can you explain why you are paying women less? Because you cannot rely on them because they get pregnant? Well, then control your own ejaculation-provoking hormones and stop getting them pregnant. Oh well, this means men definitely don’t care they just had a son or a daughter and have no interest in raising their newborns.

Then of course, came the support for violence towards women. Prove you are raped, or your benfits will decrease. So I assume the ones who passed the bill have previously assaulted a woman in their younger - or even current - years and think it is still fun and very much an irrelevant concern when the ECONOMY IS IN SO-CALLED DUMP!!!

Oh, I just had to save the best for the last. So guess what? Now they say hormones, what stage a woman is on her menstural cycle, determines who they are going to vote for. Oh, and amazingly, too, single and childless women are more likely to vote differently than married women. Just because, you know, they are more depressed.

Not that I am interested much in politics, except when I find every reason I should hate it because of how it tends to be as ridiculous as airing a reality show like Jersey Shore, but when it comes to generalizing voting habits according to race, gender, social status, and other stuff, I have a serious tendency to become speechlessly furious. I mean, seriously?

Since there is not much to research on, let’s just throw a mainstream stereotypical view of women and somehow get it to be credible, just because. I don’t know if the hysteria treatment for women in the past is worse than these conclusions. Give a woman an orgasm, and she will calm down?

What about doing the same for men? Because they are so violent and have raging hormones? Why don’t they get masturbated in doctors’ offices with a mechanical hand? Just to calm them down? Or for the same purpose it was done so to women - to undermine them, to prove that hormones control a woman’s thoughts and actions?!?!?!

And, what’s even worse, so many women who will read this will be like “oh, so I guess I was my sexiest when I casted my vote for Obama!” There are so many objectifying, degrading generalizations about women out there thanks to centuries of suppression of women that I wonder how effective would a wisdom revolution now really be.

I am a woman. I am the same amount of happy single or in a relationship. My sense of feeling sexy comes from feeling confident which comes from how successful I feel each day of my life. I know childless women who are extremely happy, and I know women with children who are depressed out to the max. Being single, being married, having a child, not having a child, no matter what the age, will never have any happy/sad effect on me.

So to the men of this world: instead of coming up with chauvinist conclusions about women based on data collected from researching soap-opera-watching-women-who-lack-a-mind-of-their-own, go do something more productive with your lives. Like you know, grow up!!!

Human Rights Activists, or Just Racists?

I’ve been following the news about the Sri Lankan maid, Rizana Nafeek, and the pleas of human rights activists to let her go. And all I have to say is, shut up. It’s eye for an eye, life for a life.

Rizana strangled a 4 month old baby in 2005, and was executed in 2013. Despite her being 17, she committed murder. OF A BABY!!! She said she was innocent, but doesn’t everyone who faces a death sentence? Her government did nothing to help her, probably because there was not enough evidence she was actually innocent.

Do you not see the amount of time Saudi Arabia had to investigate the matter? I am from there, I know. No one faces death sentence there without hard evidence, without confirmation. So all I have to say to these so-called human rights is to shut up and open their eyes. And stop holding on to the notorious stereotypical views of Saudi Arabia being ruthless towards immigrants and women.

What did you all think of Casey Anthony? She should have faced life in prison, you believed she killed her own child. You hated her. Even though, the only thing holding her responsible was her neglectful behavior and trash bags any one could have had. But despite her pleas of being innocent, no one believed her. Yet, she was free.

And here you have Rizana Nafeek. Making the same pleas. And you all are believing her and hating on the government. Why? Because the ones accusing her are Saudis? Because Saudis never show mercy to women? How much of your protests are not generated by hate of Islam rather than your belief in human rights?

I am a feminist. To the point, I sometimes hate men very much. I am also a humanitarian. I value life, I am disgusted by human and animal brutality alike. I also know where Saudi Arabia is wrong, and where it cannot be more right. After the age of 13, you are smart enough to know right from wrong. So why wait till 18 to execute a murderer? Would your soul be at peace knowing some 17 year old gang member shot your son? You think that 17 year old had no sense of what he could face? Unless you are in America, juvi it is. Bullshit.

The sooner we realize teenagers, who psychology says are maturing faster today than they did in previous decades, should be prosecuted the same way as adults, the better. If teenagers can make children, they can also kill them. Rizana got what was coming for her, and the right thing was done here.

(Source: Washington Post)

All The Suffering, For What?

I got sent home early from work today. Because I was too sick. Sick because of my period cramps. Happens every month, and every month I feel like death is upon me, or should be upon me because staying alive through this suffering is like hell on earth. Every single time, I find myself whine about how I am definitely going and getting my ovaries or uterus removed because I cannot live like this.

Trust me, the pain is horrible. I can’t stand up, I can’t sit down, I can’t even lie down in bed and feel comfortable. To top it all, I most of the time find myself throwing up, sweating and shivering at the same time. And go on for hours feeling that way. No amount of Midol seems to help. I overdose on those painkillers and nothing happens. I dread I have become immune to them. I hold hot water bottles against me but they turn cold before they even start to relieve me.

And, again, this time very seriously, I question myself. I question God. WHYYYYY!!!! If it wasn’t enough to have our hoohas explode to pop out babies who are going to be a moment’s joy and a lifetime of disappointment, we have to bleed all our lives and we have to hurt while bleeding.

Okay, so in return for all that we suffer now, we are promised no suffering in Heaven. Fair enough. But why suffer in the first place anyways?! To go to Heaven where we will have to share our husbands we love so much with 72 virgins who we are supposed to enjoy watching being violated by the man I am married to? Yeah, it requires women to be heartless, but they were not made that way, so just had to put insane amounts of heart towards being heartless to eventually avoid going insane themselves.

I mean, okay, so women are promised everlasting beauty in Heaven, but what is the use if it fails to keep a man’s mind and heart all to ourselves? Don’t men get the easy way out on earth and in heaven? They can have four wives here under certain circumstances, 72 virgins in heaven, it’s never a dull moment for them. It’s not even so hard for them anyways because they are born with no heart, and only think with their wing-wangs.

If it’s ultimate happiness in Heaven, I guess it could only mean that women there are going to have no heart, no feelings, no sense of what love is. They are going to be too absorbed in themselves to worry about anything else. Which would be considered narcissistic and selfish in this life. Basically, women in Heaven are going to have to be ignorant to be happy.

And then, women are called bitter. I guess we are bitter for a reason. There is no win for us, no matter what. If we hurt when all these questions pop in our minds, we are probably shunned away for feeling this way. We get told it’s the Devil that is making us think like that. So I wonder, why were we made sensitive and emotionally weaker than men if we had to do the suffering and not them? We should have just been machines, who without any sense of right and wrong obey whatever command is given to us without question. Which a lot of women do, but they do while still breaking into pieces on the inside. I would not question anything then.

Upon research, all scholars have to say is temptations are higher for men than for women in this life. If he acts a teeny bit upon those urges, he loses the 72 virgins, add like other levels of punishments. But if a woman acts upon those urges, she is shamed throughout her life on Earth, and well had nothing like 72 virgins for herself to lose, so just goes on to eternal torment in the afterlife.

I mean, it doesn’t mean I am going to turn away from my religion. I find more answers in it than the world itself has to offer, and I know Islam grants women more rights than other religions grant women, but even though it says equality, there is still several levels of inequality. If we were naturally programmed to not notice the inequality, I could say the world would be a better place for us. If we were born with the innate fetish of sharing our men, of being sadomasochistic enough to enjoy deathly cramps and labor pains, I would call it equality then. If we were supposed to live being treated as objects – whether it is sex objects or objects of affection – we should just not have been given the curse of feelings. We should have been made immune to pain. We should have been made immune to heartbreaks. If sexual temptations were greater for men, then for acting upon them, suffering for them should have been greater. Losing their virginity should have been painful, they should have carried the unborn child so they learn responsibility, they should have not been promised four wives and seventy-two virgins.

What message is that supposed to send to us women? That we are so easily irreplaceable, we are not enough, and we should just whore ourselves out because that is all we are worth in the end?

Saving Face

If you have a chance to see any of the Oscar short documentaries, watch Saving Face.  I’m still haunted by the horrific violation of women in Pakistan.  I can’t even talk about it without getting upset.  It’s very powerful.

While every country across the globe still has strides to make in the equality of women i.e. equal pay, equal job opportunities, equal testimony, Pakistani women just want equality of safety, the opportunity to live without fear, and the opportunity to receive justice for the the injustices carried out against them.

Every year an average of 100 Pakistani women are the victims of acid attacks from spouses and family members, and most likely there are more cases that go unreported out of fear.  Women who have had their faces burned off from battery acid.  Women who have been doused in gasoline and set afire.  Women with spouses who are abusive.  Women with in-laws who don’t want them anymore.  Women who are simply walking down the street.

(Source: heartkindlemyheart)